How Do I Love Me?

At the Blogalicious conference this past November, one of their sponsors issued all attendees a challenge.  Love Always YJE is a fashion brand focused on sparking a movement that encourages people to spread and give love—beginning with self.  They asked us to write love letters.  To others.  To ourselves.  We were given a stamped envelope to write our address and at some point in the near future, the letter would be sent.

Dear Christie...

Write a love letter to myself?

To say this was tough would be a gross underestimation. You would think that it would be easy for me since I'm a writer.  I've even written romance novels! (yes, I realize they haven't been published yet... baby steps, people… I’m an artist and I’m sensitive about my shit) But really, it wasn’t easy at all.  In fact, it was awkward as hell.  For obvious reasons, yes, but really even if I were supposed to be writing a love letter to someone else, I probably wouldn't.   I'd most likely make a mix-tape instead.  But alas, the glory days of Memorex are long gone.  So writing a letter of love it is.

How does one write a love letter to oneself?

My approach was to first think about the love I need… right now, in the moment of writing the letter.  I had to resist the urge to write what I wished someone else would say to me.  I am not them… I am me.  I am expressing MY love, not theirs.  

What do I need to hear?  
What do I need to feel?  
What do I need ME to know?

I stood at the Love Always YJE booth and wrote to myself.  Sealed it in the envelope addressed to me and handed it over to be mailed and received, I suspect, when I needed it most.

The note arrived in late December, but I decided not to open it until February 14th, Valentine’s Day. I had it on good authority that it would be the day I would need it most. 

Dear Christie... You are worthy of all the love and opportunity this world and this life have to offer. Accept it! Accept yourself! Believe!  Love, Me

Dear Christie... You are worthy of all the love and opportunity this world and this life have to offer. Accept it! Accept yourself! Believe!  Love, Me

Could you write a love letter to yourself? 

What would it say? Do you love yourself enough to do it? If you are brave enough to try it, I only ask that you give yourself the gift of truth and real, unapologetic, unwavering, unconditional love... as only you know how to give.  Think about how you give love to others and turn it back on yourself.  

Be the love of your life... because you are.